Setting boundaries around yourself is necessary, especially after a period of emotional heartache. It’s essential to build a fence around yourself while letting go of feelings of resentment.
Boundary building is not just putting up fences and saying, ‘go away, I don’t want to speak to you anymore.’ It’s also crucial to release feelings of hatred or resentment so that you can heal.
Building proper fences that don’t just serve as Fort Knox involves acknowledging our need for a little self-preservation and care. One also needs to respectfully indicate a need for space and enforce consequences e.g. limiting interactions) when necessary.
Here are Senryus on the subject.
A strong, solid, fence
Built to restrict other souls
Must not wall the self
The resilient fence
Formed to constrain wicked hearts
Some holes to release
Sturdy, solid, fence
Stands firm, resistant, and sure
Says “Keep out, or else”
The unyielding fence
Structure does not surrender
Protects hearts of all.
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